I’m very aware of my own ‘coping mechanism’ I wouldn’t say It was the best way but it’s gotten me this far…Deal with the situation however you feel fit at that precise time and then neatly wedge it into the smallest hole within the brain matter that kindly forgets the difficult things you want to remove….Emotions, moments, experiences, people etc…I personally like to conclude whatever it is that has me wanting to remove it but sometimes this is not always a possibility.
The only other way to deal with these matters is to see them through. I can only do this with things I can’t live without…but the way society is ever changing we’re all starting to live with the mindset that we can survive independently. The only thing that CANNOT be replaced is family. We can hunt down happiness, success, fortune, love etc in many different places from many different people but at the same time we can throw all of this away…so how do we decide what we treasure for our lifetime?
I am a resilient person (I bounce back from what’s been thrown at me) whether it be work, family, friends, motherhood, health or relationship problems somehow something positive always comes out of it and its identifying that something and focussing on just that.
‘Resilience in psychology is the positive capacity of people to cope with stress and adversity. This coping may result in the individual “bouncing back” to a previous state of normal functioning, or using the experience of exposure to adversity to produce a “steeling effect” and function better than expected (much like an inoculation gives one the capacity to cope well with future exposure to disease)’
How do we identify our own individual resilience? What’s our personal tipping point? I’m going to write list to try and identify how I am resilient and what I can’t seem to handle….some people have an image of themselves that probably doesn’t exist from an outsiders perceptive. So be honest with yourself….most of us shy away from who we truly are because we’re afraid of what we’ll become and in this scenario its exactly those types of people that should identify themselves, if you don’t know who you are how do you expect other people too. Lying about your strengths and flaws will in turn be a lot harder to deal with….eventually you’ll get so lost in who you want to be you won’t know who you actually are.
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